essay//: friendships

Friendships are the pure relationships between us and people we choose. A friend is the one who walks with you on your journey life or parts of it. A real friendship rest on mutual trust, sacrifices, time and energy. Generally, we can divide friendships in to three kinds casual, close and best friends based on the level of trust and intimacy (reading). I believe that good friendships are worth the effort, for it pay off in tough times and I covers our basic needs as a human being.


Usually, friends are the first ones to whom you will turn when tough times occur(reading). Most of the time, friends tend to know a lot of our secrets and sometimes our mistakes more than our parents. we do so, because we are sure that they will never save any effort to help and stand by us. Doctors found in their studies that patients who have support from others are more likely to recover more than patients without support(reading). Actually, tough time are the times in which you can decide whether a friendship is worth or not.

Friendships cover our basic needs as a human being. People in all ages show the need of being included in groups and being excepted from others(reading). Normally, in real life, you can see any human tend to have one or more friendships. Psychologists found that friendships refresh and enhance mutual, physical, emotional and social states.They also confirm that people function best when these needs are met(reading). So, I believe that friendships are worth, because if these needs are not met, we will easily fall apart.

To conclude, although friendships require a lot from us according to our ages and the circumstances, it is worth for people who grow on us. I believe that if we try to form fruitful friendships it will be worth. Because it will absolutely pay your effort off and it will obviously meet your human needs. And remember, making friendships is an optional choice, so it is you choice to live an isolated, lonely, creepy life or a long happy and fruitful life(reading).

essay//:Roommates

Naturally, human being can’t live without friends. Friends are the group of people who stand by you in both good and bad times. However, sometimes life forces us to separate from them and to make new ones. It often happens when we go to college where we, most of the time, had to stay at the same room with someone we don’t know. Making new relationships is a sensitive issue, especially when you about to live with someone for a long time like a roommate. I believe students should meet outside first to discuss the various and they should improve their communication skills in order to get along with their new roommates.

Meeting outside before moving to the new residence is very important for the roommates. It is a great chance which allows the new students introduce themselves, talk about their experiences and habits. They also can discuss various daily issues like studying environment, food if it’s shared and noise levels. A college housing coordinator (Jonathan Elston) talked in interview about the importance of discussing various issues in the first meeting (video1). He says that know roommates should make implicit norms explicit so that each person knows what is important to the other. He also says that it is important to discuss deeper issues like how the rent will be paid, who’s names on the bills, which types of services will be shared and it will be better if they talked about their experiences and their worst situation (video1). This is important because you will try your best to leave a good impressing. As we can see meeting the roommates outside before moving to the residence means knowing the person you are going to live with throughout the year.

Improving communicating skills is not only important to deal with the new roommates. It is also important in all areas of our lives like work, home and friends ( video2). Being a good communicator means being really good at engaging with people, understanding their feelings and knowing how to hold a conversations (video2) . If you want to be a good communicator, then you need to know how to use body language, use open-ended questions, activate your listening and avoiding antagonistic sentences. It is also very important to consider in mind your roommate feelings and believes instead of enforcing him to agree with you ( video2). And remember, the more you develop you communication skills the more easier it will be for you to get along with your partner and to feel comfortable living with him.

In conclusion, roommates need to arrange outside meeting and improve their communication skills before moving on to live on campus. The relationship between you and your roommate could reflect positively or negatively directly on both of you. And if things work out with your room mates they could be like your second family(video1). I believe that everyone needs friends and cant live without them.